Going through the divorce is one of the hardest things one may face. Even if all the love has gone away, and even if you know you are better off without him, breaking up is still painful. Maybe being together becomes kind of a habit and you need to put a lot of effort in quitting it. And all the memories can’t be easily erased from your mind. When things don’t work out we all get upset or even angry. It is a normal reaction to breaking up, because both of you expected something more. And all the memories, laughter and caring seems to be less meaningful than you wanted them to be. It hurts.
I’ve never been married, but have been in a long term relationship that didn’t end well. And I want to share my experience with you, I don’t know if it helps if you were married for ten years and broke up, then maybe my advice (and advice of my friends who had been in a similar situation) will seem silly. But I do hope it helps a little.